凑女经

话说上嗰礼拜我签咗维持6嗰月嘅课程。membership 系七月开始。所以哩几个礼拜嘅周末都得闲。所谓嘅working mom, weekend is the only bonding time with your kids! 一直都好钟意行街街嘅我就啦埋#rascaltoddler一起出！

又唔想洗咁多钱，就带咗佢去间无咩野买嘅shopping mall。行入间玩具铺以为佢会想要嗰玩具啦，点知佢又对啲嘢无兴趣哦。奇怪！

再行下就入咗间indoor playground。好啦被佢burn下啲energy。而我又可以休休闲闲咁坐向到睇住佢玩。一举两得！ ✌🏻

Weekend entrance fee is RM40 per adult & 1 child with unlimited time. You can re enter unlimited time too for the day. 

There is an indoor man made beads/sand pit for the kids to play like they are on the beach. And numerous slides. But the space is very limited and from our last visit till last Saturday no refurbishment done, no replacing of toys too. Pretty nothing much and quite pricey for such space. So, you judge yourself.

Venue: Quill City Mall

She was obsessed of the man made beads/ sand pit the last we visited but, this round, she seems to have OCD neat freak. She couldn't step on it at the beginning until she saw there were other children doing the same and it looks like fun. 

唔知系唔系佢真系咁闷叻。见到其他小朋友就极度兴奋定系.....?? (fill in the blanks)

She followed her new friends and try to join the crowd, again being overly friendly herself, she always get rejected by people. Pity her. 

 

 

尤其系见到大哥哥，种兴奋吖！

可惜系佢过渡嘅热情吓走啲大哥哥囖。一系就人地唔同佢玩，一系就玩玩下，为咗争野玩，意见不合做喊宝。

小朋友玩一定会要损伤。做啊妈嘅要老定。唔好小朋友一喊就以为小朋友被俾人虾。话说，热情嘅#rascaltoddler好开心咁join啲大哥哥一起玩。一路都唔系几钟意佢啲大哥哥一直抗拒佢。但系大哥哥嘅啊妈好好人。一直同佢地讲要同妹妹玩。玩到一个点，出事啦！唔知大哥哥点整到，受伤啦。喊嗮咁。好紧张嘅我跑过去系死咁道歉！

我认定咗系我家嘅#rascaltoddler整到人。Asshole parenting point 1. Thank god 大哥哥嘅妈咪唔介意种系到话小事嚟噶唔好喊。我完全无留意到#rascaltoddler嘅面目表情就一起同人地道歉。Asshole parenting point 2

过后，大哥哥一家就离开playground。我地都匆匆离开。不好意思了Asshole parenting point 3

我地就咁去咗食lunch。Settled down in restaurant 过后，佢想要Pororo, I refused because still angry at her for being rough at playground. Of course she didn't understand why I refused to and just let her continue crying. 

Then I talked to her about the incident. I asked her 3 questions:

1) why you played rough in the playground just now?

2) don't you know you've hurt people?

3) why can't you stop being a brat and listen?

Duh..she cried even more, cos she didn't understand obviously.

Then I asked her one more time. 

Do you know you've hurt 大哥哥just now? 

She stopped crying. Looked at me and say: NO!!

And continue to wailed

Face palm la! 

What am I thinking trying to talk some senses into a 2 year old mind? 

Took a deep breath (while taking the phone out for her Pororo) I asked her again in mandarin: 你是不是觉得哥哥痛痛是不关你事呢？

佢点头。

是不是哥哥自己弄到pain pain. 不是melody弄到的？

佢讲咗一连串baby language. But my mother instinct told me she was trying her best to explain what had happened of that incident and it has nothing to do with her.

哪。。melody是个good girl 吗？

佢mm咗一声。

哪。。是melody要讲sorry吗？

佢突然间大喊！

Ok,哪是不是妈咪要讲sorry呢？

佢收少少声然后叫一声mommy(with a very sad face 😭 😭 😭)

I hugged her and played her favourite Pororo.

嗰一刻真系好想来杯红酒冷静下。

She settled down and started to laugh at the cartoon feeling contented that she can watch her favourite Pororo. But I felt like an asshole at that moment. Seriously.. as parents, we always repeat the same mistakes again and again even we've vowed not to and reminded ourselve to never do such a mistake. 

For example this situation:

1) obviously she didn't feel she did anything wrong, she didn't understand why she has to apologize. Maybe at that time she was passing by or conveniently standing nearby the boy. So when the boy cried I've immediately jump to the conclusion that she was the one that is hurting him. Why would I not consider that she is only 2 years old when the boy obviously 2 years elder than her. How can she even strong enough to hurt him?

2) even so she hurt him for instance, I should have check on the boy injury if it is serious rather than apologizing again and again. And the next I should be checking on is her. If she is hurt too?

3) lastly, I should explain the situation to her at that point of time and not later when it is over. Cos from her reaction, giving her benefit of doubt, she think she is innocent.

Damn.

This is not good at all.

We returned home and putting these dramas behind us. 

Sorry baby, I vow to be better. In mean time, please give both of us the patience. I know the age is near when you think I don't understand you. Don't slam the door on me ok?

I love you, baby!

来几张开心相先：

 

做人阿妈甚艰难

依家啲细路，都几好命下。星期一到五向屋企又惊佢闷所以一到礼拜六日就啦啦林揾啲节目比去玩啰。节目唔系随随便便敷衍下就得。又要有教育性但系唔好太stress。又要有sensory development但系又唔好太over play。讲到最尾，无人理下做家长嗰荷包嘅感受。

哩啲activity闲闲哋都要几旧水一个月。But, 时代唔同咗。If 你唔带佢去，又惊佢follow 唔到。真系，好矛盾架。

😏我同一般怪兽家长有啲啲唔同。好怕佢跟唔上所以佢三个月大就joined咗sensory class。但系就系每个礼拜抽一个钟带佢去玩。其他的唔知咩brain development，music class通通都觉得浪费时间同钱。

直到佢啱啱过咗两岁嗰阵时，发觉佢对嗰个sensory class失晒兴趣。我就响度谂系咪时候换新环境叻？都有哩个谂法好几个月噶啦。又咁啱友人介绍一间最近好in嘅kids activity center. 今日我地就去咗几堂trial classes.

Disclaimer: this is not an advertisement post. This is mainly my personal experience and comment to be read on my post. Not to be use for any reference to the premise and personnel as shown and quoted below. (Kiasi punya pasal)

Location: Rockstar gym, Tropicana City Mall.

One good thing about this mall is parking is very easy. They have ladies parking just in front of the entrance to the mall for basement parking so mom with babies, that's a plus point. Also to note, I was there before 11am. That may explained why easy traffic. 

Location of the gym is at 2nd floor which is also the other end of the cinema floor. When I exited the lift, the gym is right opposite me with big entrance and sign board, furthermore it looks brand new. How branding and upkeep of a premise speaks for the brand.

This gym is originally very popular in Indonesia (since I checkout the company before attending the trial class). They have around 10 massive outlets in Indonesia (according to them, they have their own indoor water theme park). For Malaysia, they currently have 3 outlets. You can check their website: http://www.rockstar-gym.com.my/ for further information.

We were greeted by a friendly outlet manager, Christian. I am bad at remembering names but they have their name tag on them so it makes it less awkward for me. Lol. We were then being led to the waiting area and #rascaltoddler got some colouring stuffs from Christian to keep her occupied. 

+ point for mom : the personal touch of Christian make settling down #rascaltoddler way easier. Which kid doesn't like colouring? 

 

(The neatly coloured damn obvious was from her mom la!!)

I didn't tour much of the place because I don't have intention to blog about the whole thing. But the first outlook is the place quite organise and colourful for kids. They have few dance studios, an indoor basketball court, 2 activity class with kids fallproof equipped. Because it is all pack with these, the waiting area is small.

- point for mom: it was ok in the first morning when only a few parents were around, but when you reach noon, that's when the place get crowded. You have parents did take always their lunch (I'm perfectly fine with this cos we need to eat too!). Imagine parents with kids and parents' parents were in the same waiting area. So, if you are attending afternoon classes which most of us do, you may not be able to secure a seat. 

Some pictures I took for the day:-

 

   

We tried 3 classes starting from 11am.

Baby jumper - age group till 36 months, where they teach you sensory jump/gymnastics/dance activity #rascaltoddler had a blast. She totally lost it. 极度开心！玩到忘我境界！她唔系几跟得上class嘅instructions.都系比较自己向到乱玩一通。见惯世面嘅啊妈我，就由得佢自high. Though, when kids were too happily playing, they forgot they need to respect personal space. So I guess some mothers in the same class with us, think she was too rough and I'm an S-hole mother that let her daughter play like sakai. But shouldn't this be a fun class? Anyway, it reached to a point she wants to take her turn before everyone else, I've lost my cool too. So I threaten to leave the class if she behave like a brat. She wept la of course, drama princess right? 不过我系知道佢好钟意哩一堂。

Baby ballet - age group 2 - 4 (if I remember correctly). The whole class was full of cute little ballerinas! 系我童年梦想可以跳芭蕾舞。一般嘅怪兽家长都会把自己童年做唔到嘅野压向细路膊头上。But,我嘅#rascaltoddler 真系一啲兴趣都无🤔🤔🤔. Maybe this was her first class, so I'll still try for another chance. Let's see if she still interested. No pressure huh?

Baby dance - age group 2-4. This is the class that I am confident my #rascaltoddler will love it! But after an eventful energy burning activity, she became restless. The most crowded class if compare with the above 2. Will give this another try. Basically the class is about story telling/dance with the theme of the day. Should be fun if your kids love to dance!

Apparently, out of the 3 classes we were under the same teacher, Teacher Carmen. A young lady with friendly smile. But in a way too young to manage the crowd in the class. Can see she tried very hard to make sure the class keep up with her but too many distractions when you are in a class with wailing kids and some just totally not interested to follow you. Would love to attend classes with different teacher for comparison though.

- point for mom: restroom only have handful of cubicles and if I am not wrong, it is to cater both female and male patrons. I'm not sexist but this is gonna be a bit uncomfortable for kids in a way I guess. So either you do your business in the restroom of the mall for a choice. 

I was recommended by colleagues so I got a special membership package which to me is affordable looking at the variety of the classes that we can join and with this membership I am able to go to different outlets in Malaysia. 

Once you sign up, it's a 6 months commitment. If not, there will be a penalty to cancel the membership. Make sure your kids really love it before you say yes to the membership though. 

咁又唔见咗几旧水啦。😛😛

依家做父母嘅真系唔容易。自己唔食唔着都要被佢地洗咗先。所以话，一个月无几万蚊收入点样得起一头家嗄？

继续我地开开心心嘅周末！

心血来潮想去食Gohtong Jaya出名嘅炸田鸡。越埋好友一起去！食野之前去咗附近嘅strawberry/lavender farm 行下。。影翻几张相先！

 

    

天气都几热下。大家行到身水身汗！

 

   

素颜出门

 

大家开开心心咁合照

 

好啦！开饭啰！

我系专程为咗佢来噶！

Oh my 炸田鸡配买文东姜片。Finger licking good ah! 莫莫家乡鸡行埋一边啦！

我好友嘅最爱。瓦煲粉丝虾。本人觉得还好姐。鲜味好够，不过唔系我最爱。

 

上汤啦啦。每只啦啦都系啖啖肉。姜丝，杞子，红枣加埋绍兴酒简直系绝配！店主好细心，每碟啦啦都加埋一碗上汤被你。所以你可以尽情品尝！正啊！

原本开开心心嘅周末系都要搞啲嘢被我。#rascaltoddler 想玩公园内嘅slide. But it was occupied and well not very well kept. So as usual, 发晒烂渣响度烂地。I let her cry but the floor was wet. So I drag her up. Yes, I dragged her. And her arm joint was dislocated because of this.

What an S-hole mom!

We went back to KL after dinner straight to emergency. Yes, panic but still need to remain cool because panic won't deal with the issue properly. 

Million "what if"s I gave myself during the drive to emergency. Million regrets too. Like why I was such a S-hole mom let her wail. Why could not I let her play just a little while? Damn.

We reached emergency and got a doctor checked on her. She needed X-ray for both elbow though only right one was in pain. 

I carried her calmly though she was crying due to pain because all mothers are strong women! But when we were in the X-ray room, she wailed even louder because we had to place her elbow properly to take the X-ray. I was trying my best to console her and at the same time trying my best not to cry. 

When we were done, doctor confirmed he needs to twist the elbow back in place. My heart sunk. She was still crying and I couldn't hold it any longer I cried with her. I kept telling her how sorry mommy is and we hug each other crying. The doctor came, though he is a young doctor, he said this is a normal phase every parents will go through. It's really a small injury don't blame yourself. I'll give you a bit more moment ok.

It was a relief for me to hear such comforting words. Because throughout the whole ordeal, my mom kept telling me the what if. On top of my guilt, that was really not helping. 

Then a call back to husband to tell him what had happened, there was no words of comfort to calm me down but questions after questions why it happened? I remain calm and cheerfully answering his question so that it won't really worried him too much. 

So, when you see a mother in distress, please give her some words of comfort. We need it, badly. I was judging my parenting skill to let her cry and take her away from the spot so that she can calm herself yet I dislocated her elbow. What kind of fuck shit is this?

A comforting question will be: are you ok?

It was not from my family but a stranger in emergency room doing his job. Thank you handsome doctor. You make it less stressful ordeal.

We went home get ready to bed, #rascaltoddler already fast asleep from all crying and pain. But, there was no further comfort words from the father of my child.

Even worst in the morning there was nothing and I have to play it cool like everything is normal.

男人啊，我地女人唔系你谂得咁坚强。一句安慰嘅说话系好重要。不过识咗你十几年，你都系咁。囡都生埋，重要咩好讲？

#阿玲金句 #做人阿妈甚艰难 #做人老婆要豁达 

靓仔老细牛一啦！

 有几张系好清楚， 不过唔想侵犯佢私隐。所以就咁啦！

He is someone very young but knowledgeable. 又几靓仔啦！仲有仲有对人又好㖞。真系对下属来讲，几完美噶一个老细噶！

My comments maybe biased but how can I not?

Lol.

So he didn't expect we know his birthday...how can I missed it?! 

Ok, not too much later people overly think I'm trying to do something with these pictures.

Happy birthday, Ben!

Team leader. Lead 你去荷兰？

(Picture courtesy from Facebook)

打工仔辛酸有谁人知？

十年前，为了两餐温饱随便一嗰offer就抓实。无理啹啰，求其就手就算。一做就做咗5年。虽然公司超小，不过嗰份一起成长噶热诚，做牛做马都系心甘情愿噶咯。唔好记得为咗乜野原因，同嗰老细处事同抉择方式又唔系好倾得埋烂。有甘啱有间新公司叫我去应征。就系咁同以前嘅老细结束左我哋五年嘅关系。

虽然感情破裂无可否认佢系我嘅伯乐。真系好感激佢对我嘅栽培。嗰五年噶地狱式训练，真系令我向间新公司有所改变。改变咗我处事方式。有机会噶话，都想同佢讲声多谢！

The next five years (until recent) it is definitely an eye opener. 原来世界咁大！间公司好似联合国咁。唔同阶层就唔同国家噶人，唔同国家的人就唔同沟通方法。因为你觉得ok,人地觉得你自以为聪明。

But 依然热血噶我，好难唔博出位！Even though more disappointment, more stress, yet still 咬着牙关，关关过。why so positive? That's because I'm not an evil minded person. As long as you are nice and sincere to person, though you may not be treated right at this moment, someone up there who has been keeping me safe and protected will see through the hardship. Just hold on to your faith, no matter at which level of management you are in a company, what kind of stress on your shoulder, never ever let the people that surrounded you change your personality that is to work with honesty and integrity. 

Greed for power and attention will give you the spotlight you craved for, but it will not bring you to the end of the tunnel if you have to take people's who had walked with you for granted. 

Hence, when I was given chance to work with a team of people, I thank God for keeping me sensible enough to not change my personality just because my position has been promoted. 

I love the people who had put their effort in the work along the way. Because we speak the same language of philosophy in work attitude. I thought my way of leadership is too emotional attached because if someone is trying to break the bond, I jump on that attacker and protected my team. Because someone told me before I was too emotional it is not professional.

I thought so too because I look up to the person who said that to me and I thought he was right. Then, it came to my senses that even I was not good enough if I am being compared to someone else. There is always someone better than you in the line waiting to cut you off from the rope. Damn! 打仗咩？傻嘅！

To conclude, when I saw this picture being shared in Facebook, "the wisdom of wolves" just hit it on the jackpot. I thought it was my way that was a tad to emotional but it is actually not. It is how a true leader suppose to be that is be all rounder and supporting your pack from the back. Your pack will grow and become a leader one day, but it was your wisdom that it is carry on to the next pack. That is more than just monetary satisfaction. That is my one and only job satisfaction I am craving for.

I should be a coach/mentor. Being accountant just not my thing I guess? Lol.

So, are you the lead who support your pack from the back? Or the lead in the front of your pack pulling their neck to follow your path? 

#阿玲金句 #lead你到明天定lead你去荷兰

丢底四年，粉丝们还在吗？

浑浑噩噩咁就过咗四年！

Well, 我嗰life都好充实下㗎。2013 大家睇到噶post,系被求婚嗰一年。 

2014，要求极高噶我又要靓又要唔输得，自己懒醒咁做DIY。为咗被自己一个难忘噶订婚派对。#throwback 下以前啲靓相被大家睇睇：

 

   

田鸡先生也有啹浪漫噶一面。睇我喊宝咁样😂😂😂

We are typical working class trying to survive the norms, so right after our "Engagement" party, we went back to our single lives. Don't hear us wrong but we were separated due to our work commitment. It was pretty hard for me at first but I kept telling myself it's temporary. So while we both worked hard to put cash into our Chinese wedding, we were still pretty unsure what's next. 

Chinese wedding is something I dragged (funny how I actually not looking forward to that) because it involves a lot of unnecessary cost and dramas. 

So a year later in 2014, we held our Chinese wedding with a little twist in what I've been planning for. Though 我噶嘴系话唔介意，一切简简单单就好。Come on, don't be so naive. How can a bride to be will accept anything but simple. Simple must be elegant. Elegant means money! 😂 

Since I had a Victorian English engagement party a year ago, we went to a typical Chinese wedding with all required customs and Chinese SOP. So much work for my mom, so much money spent (us!)

But it was so memorable because we have our closest family members and friends going through this with us. #throwback  time 

 

My best sisters. Lol, poor bro has to dress up!

   

无论系高矮肥瘦，靓女定系猪扒，做新娘指定噶pose: 嚟嗰“性感肉背照”

选择传统褂作为晚装。

 

原本系可以在照片里头看起来瘦一啲。。surprise!

已经怀孕四个几月啦

所以转眼间，从单身变已婚再变新手妈妈！

2015 年 做了妈妈。 2016 年 我们都一岁啦！

向2016里一年期间，无论在家庭生活的转变，事业上也有很大的变动。Corporate life 过咗有十年。And then a fifth year seniority achieved, I was given the opportunity to climb further up. I always take any changes as a challenge, because I do think when you are too comfortable in a comfort zone, the progress will be on a steady slope if you are lucky, or it may go downhill. Hence, I excitedly join the new environment despite knowing how difficult it will be.

But before that, I managed to take a month break and I put all resources I have into a big trip with my mom and that #rascaltoddler of mine. We went to Denmark and a small part of Europe! Yes we did it!! 16 hours of flight with a #rascaltoddler and an elderly was damn challenging yet we pulled through.

 

  

We did Copenhagen-Austria-Berlin! Transit at Heathrow which make us step into UK land. Counted right?

😍😍😍😍

And then, we celebrated 2017! A brand new year with a brand new start.

嗰囡又大一岁啦。真系唔认老唔得囖！

身影涨得好厉害！！

嫁咗噶女人系咪就咁叻？所以，近排越嚟越觉得唔妥。开始摆翻啲时间向自己身上。扮靓自己就系我踏出的第一步！！

总还埋嗰髪型。

 

   

虽然，都系一样咁涨。不过扮靓先上班，心情系唔同噶哦。所以依家keep 住咁扮靓返工！

嗰#rascaltoddler一日一日咁大，加埋我家老嗰个又搞得点个位小姐。变咗我又多啲时间被自己。夜深难静噶时候钟意唔系乱想噶我，向都念。。。塭啲嘢嚟搞下都好喔。

That's why, decided after long consideration, let's do this again. Pick up my interest of throwing my thoughts either my not very interesting life to anonymous reader, also my parenting thoughts perhaps? Or some travel tips? Or even about weekend visits to kids friendly cafe and activities?

If you survive this long to finish reading this long post, I bet you are very keen to know what's I have in my to blog right?

Yes, you right! 

I try to keep this blog lively again. And if you are interested, do leave me a comment or two. I'm always open for ideas and constructive criticism. 

With technology, blogging it's so much easier now. Get an affordable app installed into your phone, and you can blog anything anywhere anytime. How convenient!

Let's do this!

I'll revisit all the drafts I've prepared when I decided to start blogging again, and if I think there are good to be publish. I'll do it definitely. But so far mostly parenting thoughts. Let's see.

Good night.

Welcome to Princess Piggie Wonderland.

Pen off for now 👋🏻👋🏻👋🏻